At The Zalkin Law Firm, LLP, we have the honor of standing with survivors of child sexual abuse and helping them pursue justice. One of the most common questions people ask is: “Why didn’t they report sooner?”
The truth is, there are countless reasons why survivors delay reporting. In fact, research shows that many survivors wait years—or even decades—before disclosing their abuse. Understanding these reasons helps challenge harmful myths, reduce stigma, and support survivors on their healing journeys.
Fear and Intimidation
Children who are abused often live in fear of their abuser. In many cases, the abuser is a trusted adult—such as a parent, family member, teacher, or coach. Survivors may be threatened with harm, told no one will believe them, or made to feel responsible for what happened.
That fear can carry into adulthood, leaving survivors hesitant to come forward even years later.
Shame and Self-Blame
Abuse often leaves survivors with overwhelming feelings of shame. Children may not fully understand what happened to them, and as they grow older, they may internalize the abuse as something they should feel guilty about.
Society’s harmful stereotypes and victim-blaming attitudes only add to this burden, making it incredibly difficult for survivors to speak out.
Lack of Understanding During Childhood
Children may not always recognize that what they experienced was abuse. Especially when the abuser is someone they trust, they might confuse the abuse with affection or attention. Many survivors only come to terms with the reality of the abuse years later, sometimes after therapy, education, or similar stories come to light.
Distrust of Authority or Institutions
In cases where institutions such as churches, schools, or youth organizations are involved, survivors may feel betrayed when those institutions fail to protect them. Some survivors fear that reporting the abuse will only lead to further cover-ups or disbelief.
Emotional and Psychological Trauma
Child sexual abuse causes profound trauma. Survivors often spend years coping with depression, anxiety, PTSD, or other mental health challenges. For many, survival means focusing on day-to-day life rather than confronting the painful past. It may not be until they reach a point of stability—or encounter a triggering event—that they feel ready to disclose.
Changes in the Law
Another reason survivors delay reporting is that they may not realize they still have legal options. Statutes of limitations for child sexual abuse claims have been extended in many states, giving survivors more time to come forward. In some places, windows have even been opened for those whose claims would have otherwise expired.
At The Zalkin Law Firm, LLP, we help survivors understand their rights under current laws and guide them through the legal process with compassion and care.
Supporting Survivors, No Matter When They Come Forward
There is no “right” timeline for disclosing abuse. Survivors are courageous no matter when they speak up. At The Zalkin Law Firm, LLP, we believe that justice should never be denied simply because of how long it takes to report.
If you are a survivor of child sexual abuse, know that you are not alone—and that resources, support, and legal options may still be available to you. Our firm is here to listen, advocate, and fight for the justice you deserve.
Contact us today to schedule a free consultation.